Ok I need to get this off my chest...
There is this guy at my work who is married and has a 6 month old baby girl. It seems like ever since she was born he has complained and whined everytime his wife has left him alone to watch the baby for the night or weekend. He complains that his nights/weekends are ruined when he has to watch her because he can't do what "he" wants to do. He says he can't sleep at night because he wakes up to her crying and that her crib monitor is too sensitive and he can hear her breathing. He goes on and on whining and bitching every other day.
Before Katlyn died it was annoying, but tolerable. But now that Katlyn has died, I just can't listen to him bitch anymore! So many people (like Josh and me) would do anything to be in his position and have a baby wake them up in the middle of the night and consume their nights and weekends. Sometimes people with children just don't realize how lucky they are. Children are truly a blessing!
Also I don't understand how this guy can complain and whine all the time, when him and his wife tried forever just to have a child (fertility issues). So now they finally have their baby and all he does is bitch whenever he has to lift a finger to watch her. He is in his early 30's and you think he'd be grown-up and mature enough to take on the responsiblity, but obviously not.
He is well aware of what I have been through the past couple months, but since I have come back to work he'll still come over to my desk and talk about his daughter saying how she is crawling now, and she only crawls backwards and the rolls over to get to where she wants to go. He talks about how she likes to splash in the bathtub and stuff. I have been considerate and listening intently to his descriptions, putting on a fake smile... But today I just couldn't handle it.
I heard him talking on the other side of my cube to another co-worker saying how he wasn't gonna get any sleep this weekend, because his wife is making him watch his daughter and she is gonna keep him up. His weekend is now shot... yada yada yada. I just couldn't hear anymore. I went over and pulled him aside and told him to stop f*cking complaining about watching his daughter all the time. And how I would kill to be in his position. Then I broke down. Luckily my friend saw what was going on and quickly pulled me into the stairwell. *Thanks Melissa*
I was gonna try to ignore him because he has a new job and is only working 1/2 days in my department for the next week, but I just couldn't hear it anymore. All I think about is how I'll never get to hear Katlyn crying in the middle of the night or hear her breathing on the baby monitor. Josh and I won't be able to spend our nights and weekends with our baby girl.
Anyways, after about an hour I felt better. And my friend told the guy to not talk to me the rest of the day. A while later I hear him talking about life in the 1800's and how the infant mortality rate has dropped dramatically since then. Doesn't he have any CLASS???? He knows what I've been through and we were even kind of friends. Now I hate him and can't even stand to look at him anymore. I am going to try my best to ignore him the next week. But I know it will be hard.
Anyways, Thanks for listening...
-Jenny
5 comments:
Jenny,
I suppose you could first try to get one of your friends at work to tell the guy, next, I personally see no reason why you shouldn't take a minute of his time to either tell him, or write him a note. It is obviously hard for him to see this from YOUR perspective, that is he is unaware that while speaking about himself. . . he is infringing on YOUR space as a result of your loss. The guy just simply IS NOT aware of it and in most cases like this he will be very sorry when you or someone explains it to him. I had a thing i was telling people about working out, and didn't realize there was a hijinx that I had to appologize to someone for, but I regret i just didn't know about it until someone mentioned it to me. I hope you understand.
"She lost a kid, so quit saying you hate babysitting" or something like that. And we are all very sorry for your loss, too!!!
Love, Dan
Jenny,
In answer to your question about earthquakes in the midwest, there have been several of these since I have been following them real close.
There will be others again some day, but as a general rule it will be somewhere between 350 and 1000 years before that big of one comes along, but since it HAS been close to 200 years already since that giant one in 1812, then it may not be that long. . . but it probably won't be in the coming days.
I mostly track seismic energy around the world by using the National Earthquake Information Center listing of recent earthquakes, and that tells you which way the seismic energy is usually heading and thus you can watch along the active fault lines out ahead of it!
Thank-You for your question! Too bad Blogspot doesn't have messaging, hope you don't mind i'm leaving you a message in your comments section! If you reply, you can leave that in MY comment section somewhere and I will find it!
And God Bless you and your family!!!
EQ Guy
Jenny,
I am so sorry you are having to endure such insensitivity in your workplace. I don't know if I would be a big enough person to handle it.
I think you did the guy a favor by being real with him Jenny and not putting on that fake smile. (I'm also glad your friend was there to keep you from losing it further) I am stunned that he could keep it up after that. I am so glad that there is an end in sight at least in your having to put up with this guy.
I know there is no end in sight to your grief and loss though...
Keeping you in my prayers,
Betty
Some people don't think before they speak.
Jenny
I am so sorry for your loss. I have had 2 miscarriages, and now am unable to get pregnant again at this time. I also have PCOS, which without expensive and invasive procedures like IVF I will prob never know the joys of having a child. I have been through as much medical treatment as I can endure over the past 5 years, and nothing has helped. My husband and I are very saddened by all of it, even though adoption will be next on our list.
I have seen numerous people get pregnant that did not want to be. I have been witness to several insensitive comments by others around me about how they had to "sacrifice" their lives bc they had a baby....and all this time I am screaming WHY? Some people just don't understand that having a baby is a wonderful experience, and a life long joy. When I see people that act the way this man has acted towards you....it makes me so upset. There is nothing more heart wrenching in life than to lose a child, and I am so sorry for what has happened to you and your husband. Sometimes I think it is just not fair, and find myself blaming my situation on things I really shouldn't. I hope that you can find peace, and do not worry about those who are just plain rude and insensitive.
You are in my thoughts.
Vicky
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